A Success Story

River StonesI’ve worked for some fine people over the course of my career.  One of the best was my old manager from my past employer, Chuck Reedy.

I worked for Chuck for two years.  He was a good manager, treating everyone with dignity and respect.  He was dedicated, hard working, and pragmatic.  Unfortunately, Chuck was laid-off in November, 2007 due to a company downsizing.

It was only after Chuck was gone that I fully appreciated the quality of his leadership and character.  In the span of one month, I reported to three different managers due to firings for performance.  Chuck had done an excellent job of insulating our team from the craziness of his leaders, never once complaining or blaming them to us.  He was a class act.

I kept tabs on Chuck’s job search through his son, who continues to work at that company.  But as the weeks turned into months and then stretched beyond a year with no full-time employment, I stopped asking about him. I justified myself by reasoning that it was rude to keep asking about such a painful issue – I’d be rubbing salt in an open wound.

Now that I’m unemployed, I see things very differently.  There’s nothing like walking in someone else’s shoes for a while to give you a new perspective.

Recently, I had to phone Chuck to ask if he’d be willing to be a reference for me.  I was nervous calling him – would he be upset that I had done a poor job of staying in contact, that I hadn’t been more supportive? But the warmth in his voice put my worries to rest.  He’s still a class act.

He said that he searched for full-time work for over a year.  Twice he made it as far as the final interview, only to lose out to another candidate or a hiring freeze.  Now Chuck sees this as a blessing.

“I always wanted to have my own business, but never took the time to pursue it.  God opened that door for me, but I spent a lot of time looking at the door He had closed.”

Now Chuck is running his own contracting / handyman service.  He has several remodeling and building projects in the works.  The same qualities he demonstrated as a manager serve him well in his new business.  The work is hard, but he’s happy and fulfilled, and wakes each morning with a new sense of purpose.

Chuck told a story of a recent church study group meeting where the leader asked everyone to share what they’re thankful for from the past year.  “I’m grateful that God led me to where I belong,” Chuck said.  “I never realized I could be this happy.”


Stories From Unemployment 2

Image titled Grand Canyon backpack by Kevindooley.  Click on image to see more of his work.

Image titled "Grand Canyon backpack" by Kevindooley. Click on image to see more of his work.

It’s now a little over three weeks since the layoff.  The past week has been very busy and challenging, but also extremely rewarding.  One of the things this experience has taught me is that the rest of your life doesn’t end just because you lose your job.

For instance, our boy scout troop has a backpacking hike planned for tomorrow.  The boys plan to hike a few miles with full packs to prepare for a longer hike in May.  I’ll be sharing the following advice with them before we set out.  This “Scoutmaster’s Minute” obviously has broader applications to searching for a new job, or any other challenge that life may give you.

A Scoutmaster’s Minute On Hiking

As you set out on this hike, you have a choice to make: where are you going to focus your attention?

The reason why you hike is to reach a desired destination.  That’s the goal.  Having a goal is a good thing.  It gives you a direction and a purpose.  Reaching a goal, especially a challenging goal, is rewarding.  When we reach our goal this afternoon, what do you think will be our rewards?

With so many obvious rewards, it’s easy to see why so many people focus their attention on the goal.

But consider this: what is a hike?  A hike is actually a series of individual steps taken one after the other over time until the desired goal is achieved.  What many people fail to recognize is each one of those steps offers its own special reward, if you allow it.

This is something you can’t be taught from a book or from someone else telling you about it.  You have to experience it for yourself to understand.

Each step is an opportunity.  No two steps are exactly the same.  Each step is necessary to reach the goal.  And each step will reward you in its own unique way if you’re paying attention.

That’s the beauty and the challenge of hiking: you can focus on the goal and receive your reward at the end, or you can focus on each step, receiving each individual reward along the way, and also attain the extra reward of the goal as an extra benefit.  The choice is yours.

So where will you focus your attention?

What Message Are You Sending?

Image of Barack Obamas Inauguration From The Crowd On The Mall by Johno525

Image of Barack Obama's Inauguration From The Crowd On The Mall by Johno525

Like so many others across our country and around the world, I felt compelled Tuesday to watch the historical events taking place in Washington D.C.  Even here in rural, republican-leaning, central Ohio, many of my friends and coworkers couldn’t help but watch the spectacle as it was occurring live from the nation’s capital.

I was drawn to the inauguration by accident.  I knew the historical significance of the day and I was eager for our new president to get to work, but I felt no need to gawk at the pomp and circumstance that always accompanies a presidential inauguration.  However, by mid-morning there was an energy in the air that was palpable.  The excitement and anticipation of so many people focused on this one, milestone event created an effect that could be felt on our factory floor.  I felt happy, peaceful, and accepted.  I found myself smiling for no apparent reason.

I wondered if others could feel the energy I was feeling.  As an experiment, I walked the aisle past our basket makers.  Each time I noticed one with their head down, intent on weaving a basket, I would focus my attention on them and smile the energy I was feeling in their direction. 

Five times out of five, each person looked up from their work, immediately caught my gaze, and returned my smile.  No matter how far away I was, no matter what direction they were facing, each time I focused that positive energy on them, within two seconds their head turned in my direction and their eyes found mine.  Absolutely amazing.

 So I watched as much of the swearing-in ceremony as my schedule would allow, I listened to President Obama’s inauguration speech over NPR, I watched much of the parade and a few of the balls on CNN.  The themes of responsibility and accountability came through in the President’s speech, but there were many other messages that were sent during the day’s events.  The diversity and acceptance of the crowd on the mall, the anticipation of change, the inclusion of so many that have been traditionally marginalized, the hope for a brighter future and a better world. 

So many positive messages combined with an overwhelming majority of happy people (in spite of security and scheduling issues in Washington) created an emotional energy that can only be described as love.  It grew and multiplied through out the day and affected us all, as my experiment showed, whether we realized it or not.  Lord, may we as a human race experience more and more days like Tuesday, January 20, 2009.

A Different Message

Wednesday morning at work gave me a completely different experience.  I opened my e-mail and received the following message:

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I do my best to grow in my Christian faith each day.  Does the fact that I hadn’t “undoubtedly wondered” about any of the issues raised in this e-mail advertisement make me a “bad” Christian?  What about the next questions that crossed my mind: it was right to legislate the civil rights laws that made yesterday’s inauguration possible because that was an issue of justice, but is it right to legislate laws that address moral issues?  Didn’t we try that during prohibition?

This is a message of fear, plain and simple.  This advertisement is judgemental and discriminatory.  The good intentions of well-meaning people have been turned to other purposes by this message.

My question to Focus on the Family is this: if we could interview Jesus Christ today, which message would He be more likely to associate with, President Obama’s inauguration Tuesday or the advertisement above? 

What message are you sending?

What You Expect Is What You Get

The program exists for the scouts.

It was our annual fall camporee this past weekend, and I’m pleased to report that it went well.  Actually, to be more correct, I should say the boy scouts and adult leaders that I talked to feel the camporee was an improvement over previous years’ events, but that opinion isn’t universally accepted.  Here’s what I mean:

For the past several years, our scout district has held our fall camporee in conjunction with the Apple Butter Day event at Camp Falling Rock in Newark, OH.  Apple Butter Day is a day-long cub scout event put on by the Falling Rock Properties Committee.  The cubs get to shoot bb guns and bows & arrows, throw tomahawks, brand wood, make rope, press fresh apple cider, and generally enjoy the outdoor setting of the camp.  The proceeds from the event in turn benefit the properties committee; it’s their big fund-raiser for the year.

Since Falling Rock is located in Licking District, the scout troops of our district are asked each year to help support the event.  While the scouts are certainly willing to help, the property committee, a group made up almost exclusively of very long-tenured scout leaders (read good-ol’-boy’s network) hasn’t been very good at planning the event or communicating their needs to the scout troops.  They’re used to simply showing up and taking care of things just as they’ve always done, and they expect the scout troops to do the same.

Last year, three troops showed up planning to do the exact same type of demonstration.  Also, several troops reserved campsites only to find their sites had been double-booked due to poor communication between the committee and the council.  My troop was discouraged and frankly tired of the yearly ritual of playing baby sitter to the cub scouts.  The boys were actively talking about not attending future Apple Butter Days.  In the hopes of making things better, I volunteered to work with another scoutmaster to plan a more boy scout friendly fall camporee. 

We devised a plan we thought would support Apple Butter Days plus challenge the boy scouts.  Half the scouts would man the Apple Butter Day stations to support the visiting cub scouts and their families during the morning while the other half would participate in a new Scout Games competition, testing their emergency preparedness skills.  In the afternoon, the two scout groups would switch positions giving everyone the opportunity to provide service to others for half a day and to compete for prizes and recognition the other half of the day.  Add a camp fire Saturday evening and a scout service Sunday morning and you’ve got a winner.  Or at least that’s what Mike and I thought. 

Our proposal was not well received by the properties committee.  They didn’t understand why we needed to change – the boy scouts are going to quit coming otherwise and you won’t have an Apple Butter Days.  They didn’t understand why we wanted to divide our scouts to work the Apple Butter Day sites more effectively – it’ll reduce wait time for the cubs and their families and increase attendance in the future.  They had a million objections to the way we proposed to run the event, but no suggestions for improvements.  Mike was a real trooper trying to sway the opinion of the primary stake holders on the committee, but he ultimately wasn’t successful.

Long story short: we went ahead with our plans camporee plans over the objections of the committee.  I arrived Friday evening at camp feeling like a number of people were rooting for us to fail.  To make matters worse, I didn’t feel like I was as prepared as I needed to be. 

“Well Lord, I’m stepping off the cliff.  Please grow me some wings on the way down,” I prayed.

“This is either going to be great, or it’s really going to suck,” I told the adult leaders in our leader’s meeting Friday evening.  “It all depends on whether you’ll volunteer to help us or not.”  We had just enough volunteers to get all the jobs done, both up top for the cubs and down below for the scouts.

At the end of the day, one of the new scoutmasters thanked me for the great weekend.  “It really helps having others put together a planned event like this,” he said.

But I also heard second-hand that one of the property committee members said the weekend was a total failure and we wouldn’t be doing it again next year.

In the past, that one negative comment would have ruined the whole event for me.  One hundred compliments could be completely offset by just one negative comment.  This time however, I was granted the space and the grace to see that negative comment for what it was: that person’s mind was made up long before we even arrived for the weekend.  “Don’t confuse me with the facts!  I know the weekend will be a disaster.”

The experience of the camporee gave me an interesting perspective on the presidential election.  History was made Tuesday night: for the first time we have an African American president-elect.  Some of Obama’s supporters took to the streets in celebration; they’re anticipating change and a brighter future. 

And what of McCain’s supporters?  What do they feel the future holds?  The intense emotion and negativity of the presidential campaign bodes poorly for their expectations of a bright future.

As for me, my expectations were fully realized Wednesday morning: everybody I polled at work was still putting their pants on one leg at a time.  That the major news agencies were all fairly quiet all day since their reporters had all been up late covering the election was an added plus…

On Leadership

Wed. Oct. 10 – The second US presidential debate was held last night.  Today Fox News and CNN both boast posts listing thousands of comments from people claiming McCain won or Obama won.

Did you watch the debate last night?  Do you have an opinion of who won?  Have you read the comments that the McCain and Obama supporters are leaving on the the linked posts above?

Go ahead, read some of the comments from both of the links.  We’ll wait…

Are We All Losing?

How can so many people fall into two such violently differing viewpoints on the candidates’ performances?  Does it really all come down to whether you’re red or blue, republican or democrat?  Where did all the anger and resentment these people are expressing come from?  Slander and accusations, rude language and personal attacks – has it always been this way?

The President of the United States is frequently called the “leader of the free world,” but what are the qualities of a good leader?  The sixth US president defined it this way:

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” — John Quincy Adams

Inspiring words that describe what may be our ideal of a good leader.  Ironic, isn’t it, that Adams’ achieved very little during his presidency due to the opposition he experienced from Andrew Jackson’s supporters in the congress of his day.  I imagine John Quincy Adams, if he could be brought back, would identify the partisan fighting in Washington as business as usual.

Be Careful What You Ask For, You Just Might Get It

Let me be honest with you: like the majority of Americans, I too have an opinion on which candidate would make the better president.  As I watched the debates last night, I cheered my candidate on.  Unfortunately, I also found myself deriding his opponent’s statements.  I smiled each time I felt my candidate “scored” a point.  I scoffed and occasionally cursed at the opponent’s claims.  I even found myself taking personal offense at some of his statements, as if they were directed at me.

Then, in a moment of clarity, I saw how I was behaving and I was ashamed.  I was allowing myself to get caught up in the prize-fight mentality of the campaign.  The comments from the linked posts above feel an awful lot like the fist fights that can break out in the crowds at such a boxing event.

Have we lost our perspective on the role of the president?  He has a very important job, but he doesn’t run the country all by himself.  He is the leader of the executive branch, and he has a big say in the direction that our country will take in the next four years, but he’s just one man.

The senators and congressmen in the legislative branch, and the lawyers and judges in the judicial branch, will also have a major impact on the next four years.  They could easily thwart every presidential initiative, if they so desire.  And let’s not forget that we’re just one country among many on this planet.  If the new president is going to be effective, his administration will have to partner with many different people who hold many differing opinions and perspectives.

So what do all the strong opinions and raw emotions surrounding this presidential campaign say about us, the US citizens?  I believe it all boils down to this: we’re trying to shirk our responsibilities.

We want someone to take charge and get us out of the all the messes we’ve allowed our country to get into.  We don’t want to have to pay attention to how the problems get fixed, just as long as the solutions don’t affect us personally. We’re looking for a savior to fix everything for us.

So the election has degraded into an all-or-nothing decision.  Us versus them, with no middle ground for compromise.  If your candidate wins, then we’re safe for four more years.  If not, then you know who the scapegoat will be for all the woes of our country.  Can anyone successfully lead in this sort of an environment?

What We Need Are Leaders

We have become complacent.  We’ve gotten lazy.  We’ve accepted the lie that we’re powerless.  It’s time for all of us to take back the responsibility we hold as US citizens.  It’s time for us to start leading ourselves again.

“The task of leadership is not to put greatness into people, but to elicit it, for the greatness is there already.” — John Buchan

“I start with the premise that the function of leadership is to produce more leaders, not more followers.” — Ralph Nader

Once again, what is leadership?  It’s so hard to define, but we all can recognize it when we see it.  And we’re hungry for it.

First, let’s be clear: leadership starts with us.  Each of us, no matter how lowly we believe we are, has leadership responsibilities, to ourselves and to others.  Dee Hock, the founder and CEO emeritus of Visa International, sums up leadership this way:

“If you seek to lead, invest 50% of your time (attention) leading yourself – your own purpose, ethics, principles, motivation, conduct.  Invest 20% leading those with authority over you and 15% leading your peers.  Use the remainder to induce those you “work for” to understand and practice the theory.  If you don’t understand that you should be working for your mislabeled “subordinates,” then you know nothing of leadership.  You only know tyranny.  Lead yourself, lead your superiors, lead your peers, and free your people to do the same.  All else is trivial.” — Dee Hock

Personal leadership is critical to the success of our families, our businesses, our communities, and our country as a whole.

“I think leadership comes from integrity – that you do whatever you ask others to do. I think there are non-obvious ways to lead. Just by providing a good example as a parent, a friend, a neighbor makes it possible for other people to see better ways to do things. Leadership does not need to be a dramatic, fist in the air and trumpets blaring, activity.” — Scott Berkun

If we’re to be effective leaders, then we need to put the needs of others ahead of our own.

“Good leaders must first become good servants.” –Robert Greenleaf

As leaders, we need to remember that the ends do not justify the means.  The means and the ends are inseparable.  We can’t end terrorism through torture.  We won’t pay for our government’s historical deficit by cutting taxes.  Sacrifices are hard, but failure is much worse.

“The older I get, the less I listen to what people say and the more I look at what they do.” — Andrew Carnegie

“You don’t lead by pointing and telling people some place to go.  You lead by going to that place and making a case.” — Ken Kesey

Each of us has the ability to become better leaders.

“Leaders aren’t born they are made.  And they are made just like anything else, through hard work.  And that’s the price we’ll have to pay to achieve that goal, or any goal.” — Vince Lombardi

So I encourage each of you, study what the candidates have to say.  Don’t accept pat, party dogma for answers.  Challenge yourself to really listen to what each candidate is proposing.  Then, vote your convictions come November.

But remember, our job doesn’t end with that one vote.  Our government leaders have been selected by the people and they work for the people.  It’s our duty to monitor their performance, and to help them make the right decisions.  The lobbyists have a lot of money, and they’ve enjoyed a great deal of influence in Washington, but they’re no match to an electorate who have unleashed their potential as leaders.

If enough of us aspire to our higher potential, then perhaps we’ll find that we do get the kind of leaders that we all hope to find.

The true leader serves.  Serves people.  Serves their best interests, and in so doing will not always be popular, may not always impress.  But because true leaders are motivated by loving concern rather than a desire for personal glory, they are willing to pay the price.” — Eugene B. Habecker  The Other Side of Leadership